| It happens at every party: You swear that
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| | should be eating that way - healthy."
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| you'll stick to your diet and you're
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| | Outside buddies, who provide
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| really sticking to your guns, popping
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| | encouragement and help 24/7, also can be
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| crunchy baby carrots into your mouth like
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| | part of your weight-loss network. "I
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| chocolate bon bons while everyone else is
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| | recommend having someone to talk to
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| loading up on nachos and guacamole dip.
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| | before, during and after you go to these
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| Then someone - your mother who has been
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| | events," Harrison says. "Buddying up
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| slaving over the hot stove all day, your
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| | during the holidays is crucial for people
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| Uncle Mike who has polished off three
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| | who are alone because you get
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| martinis, your best friend Mary who has
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| | companionship. You get someone on your
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| been trying to lose 25 pounds for the
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| | team. is one way to do this. It is ideal
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| last 25 years - steps up to your plate
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| | for a lot of people because it's like
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| and fills it with an extra-large helping
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| | one-stop shopping."
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| of guilt.
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| | Once you have a buddy, you can work
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| "Come on, live a little. Just eat one
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| | together to change the menu for future
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| piece," your sister says as she tries to
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| | parties. "Make the holidays less about
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| stuff the stuffing in your face. "It's
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| | food," Cipullo says. "Meet for appetizers
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| your favorite, and I made it just for
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| | and drinks, not for formal sit-down
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| you. I'll be hurt if you don't at least
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| | dinners. Go ice skating or go for coffee
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| try it."
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| | or go out to a restaurant and choose your
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| And before you know it, you're having
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| | own food. Go out and look at holiday
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| your and everyone else's cake and eating
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| | lights. Go for a manicure or a pedicure
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| it, too.
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| | with your friends so you can sit around
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| Family and friends, the people you expect
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| | and chat and catch up."
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| to support you, are the very ones who are
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| | And if your willpower does buckle under
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| most likely to sabotage your diet, either
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| | the mistletoe, remind yourself that it
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| consciously or subconsciously, and that's
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| | doesn't have to be feast or famine. "When
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| why you need a neutral buddy to get you
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| | you learn to ride a bike, you sometimes
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| through not every wedding, birthday, bar
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| | fall off," Harrison says. "And when you
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| mitzvah and holiday party, experts say.
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| | learn, you don't learn to ride in a
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| "When we sit down at the table, we're all
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| | straight line; you weave back and forth
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| sort of comparing how we shape up with
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| | and that's how diets should be."
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| the other people there," says Henrietta
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| | WeightLossBuddy.com's Top 10 Tips for the
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| Harrison, a psychotherapist and life
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| | Holidays
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| coach in Westport, Conn. "We're all
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| | 1.Find a buddy to help you get through
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| looking around the table to see who looks
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| | the event and call or e-mail the buddy
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| older than last year, who looks thinner,
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| | before, during and after the party. For
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| who looks heavier."
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| | more information on the buddy system, go
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| And when people indulge, adds Laura
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| | to
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| Cipullo, a registered dietitian and
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| | 2.If you are a guest, eat a small
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| certified diabetes educator with offices
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| | low-calorie snack before you go to the
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| in Manhattan, New Jersey and upstate New
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| | party at the time you usually eat dinner.
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| York, "typically they want others to be
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| | If you are the cook, eat a small
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| 'bad' with them and indulge, too."
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| | low-calorie snack before you prepare the
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| But as Cipullo and Harrison point out,
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| | meal.
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| just because you are offered the piece of
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| | 3.Eat smaller portions of everything on
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| homemade pumpkin pie doesn't mean that
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| | the table.
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| you have to eat the whole thing. But it
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| | 4.Nibble your way through the party.
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| does mean that you can understand why you
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| | 5.Use the three-bite rule: If someone
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| are being asked to eat it and then enlist
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| | insists you eat a food that's not on your
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| your family and friends to help everyone
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| | diet, only eat three bites of it. That
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| beat their bad eating habits.
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| | way, you can tell the cook how much you
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| "It can be threatening to a partner when
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| | have enjoyed it, and everyone is
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| the other loses weight because the
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| | satisfied.
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| thinner person will become more
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| | 6.Ask whether you can take a piece of pie
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| attractive to other people," Harrison
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| | or cake home to eat later. Savor every
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| says. "When you lose weight, particularly
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| | bite by pacing yourself, only eating a
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| if you are a woman, your confidence
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| | little bit every day.
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| increases and it's empowering. This can
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| | 7.When you turn down a fattening food,
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| upset the balance of power because as she
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| | substitute a lower-cal food in its place.
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| gets more assertive, she becomes
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| | For instance, instead of the pumpkin pie
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| confident enough to change jobs, run for
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| | with whipped cream, eat an apple.
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| the PTA or even go back to work."
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| | 8.Just say no to that extra helping of
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| By making your family and friends your
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| | stuffing. But do it politely.
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| buddies, everybody wins the weight-loss
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| | 9.Change your holiday traditions so that
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| game, Harrison and Cipullo say. "The
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| | activities, not food are the center of
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| buddy system is a good idea," Cipullo
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| | attention.
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| says, "because the entire family can be
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| | 10.If you do blow your diet, don't punish
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| on the same page. If mom and dad are
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| | yourself and don't end your diet. Every
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| eating a certain way or one child is
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| | day is a new day.
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| eating a certain way, the whole family
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